I thought of starting my first post with something more general, that in many ways affect all of us. The following post's theme is partly based on a novel that inspired my writing.
A young woman named Zadie Smith is a well known young author. Her last novel, on beauty is an enjoyable literary novel. In her book she observes humanity and dissects human pretensions. By that, she makes contemporary life seem both peculiar and poetic. The author enters her second ‘’chapter’’ with a quote by Elaine Scarry. It goes somehow like this; ‘’to misstate, or even merely understate, the relation of the universities to beauty is one kind of error that can be made. A university is among the precious things that can be destroyed.’’
Have you ever reevaluated? We humans usually endeavor for something out of the ordinary. We settle down, more often making dreams and wishing that they will someday become reality. We strive to fulfill our goals. Commonly we also make plans for a lifetime and almost always we are being definitely accurate to ‘’the meaning of life’’.
But most importantly we fall in love, we perpetrate mistakes and in the end we usually do not even have the slightest idea of what makes life truly beautiful. And all that because we often take things for granted.
If we look back in time, we will distinguish that each and every one of us has at least once in our lifetime searched for a personal identity, or maybe still do. What makes it so hard to define one person, to define ourselves? Our identity consists roughly of those properties that make us unique as individuals and different from others. It may be the way we see and define ourselves or even the network of values and convictions that structure our lives.
Therefore we will always acquire a new individual identity, or perhaps without even knowing it carry on without one. But the point is that while we continue searching for identities, we just happen to forget something very central, namely that we are all of the same kind. As H.J. Blackman once said ‘’ we refuse to be each other’’. We are humans and most importantly we are those, we were born to be. We cannot change as persons, our heritages and backgrounds; we can just change the circumstances around us and embrace our personal identity.
Throughout our personal experiences, economical diversity, race, class, political views, clashes of culture and religions in the depth we all strive for one purpose, namely to ‘’live happily ever after’’. But there is a variety of persons that frequently take fairytales as exceptions and try to be more realistic, they look at their own factuality. In fact they do not even believe in their dreams, they think that those precisely like the stars, are not predicated anywhere and may whenever just fall. Dreams are just one part of their sleep and liberation for their minds. To be honest persons like that are very pessimistic, they just see life from one angle. Things usually have many frames of references and they may often lose the meaning of life.
On the other hand there are persons who happen to believe in their visions and aims and find them as a decampment that conducts them to their felicity. These persons have the opportunity to find the distinction in their lives and move forward. It is also known that the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
Another substantial part of our humanity is to ‘’fall in love’’, a locution that often brings both happiness and virulence in one’s heart. Everything starts with empathy, the falling follows and the trust which leads to love. Marriage and family, everything follows the tradition and of course the path of nature. But this path may also lead to betrayals, disappointments and regrets. Mistakes are conducted that may never be forgotten or forgiven. And as we stand there at the boulevard of our broken dreams, we realize that we must take a decision, either to condone a person or to continue on without it. The action that hurts the most is the belief of ‘’knowing’’ a person for that many years, while actually not. Because trying to forget someone you love, is like trying to remember someone you never met. Stories vary, such do love. But we need love to continue, we, humans are created this way.
While the key to the door lock; is that we must face things in life with equanimity and objectivity. We must stand up proudly no matter what happens and continue with our show, because life is full of surprises that may pop up unexpectedly. To sum up the spicy ingredient of life, is love. We cannot buy love; we can only earn it throughout our doings. So before we search for the substantial in our life, we should just reconsider for a minute and then see that nothing else matters other than to be loved and love.
